I just read a new article on Desiring God's website entitled Before the throne of social likes. It is one of the best write-up I've read so far and has dearly spoken to my heart today. You see, when I was younger, I used to be that school-girl who got so addicted to using social media that I wake up social media, I eat social media, I sleep social media and breathe social media. Although it is absurd to think that way, it's been the truth that I have been living in until my early teenage years.
I would often base my social status on the number of 'hearts' on my photos on Instagram or the pleasing comments on my Facebook posts. If I didn't get the desired number of likes, I'd sulk up in one corner bothered by the thought that maybe certain people hate me for them not to react in any of what I post online. While my former classmates reach a whopping 530+ likes on their profile pictures, I just get a tiny 35 -83 likes at its best. I kept on telling myself that they just have many friends to even garner that big amount of likes and that that number of likes wouldn't necessarily mean I'm less prettier than that classmate of mine (hmmm) or that my write-up has lots of grammatical errors than those who get many reactions in their posts. I kept on comforting myself but deep down, I had let social media affect me that I wasn't the person God truly wanted me to be.
The past few weeks of July, I've had to do a Facebook decluttering session. I basically deleted people I don't really know on my friends list and kept the people I know I could talk to in person or in phone. I also hid every useless post I had shared on my timeline. I deleted a number of photos including my profile and cover photos. The reason I did all that is the fact that I suddenly got tired of masking up the real me and putting up a persona that I hoped people would like. I mean, if people really cared then they would be willing to cross the border of social media to get in touch with me, right?
My realization here is that many things out here in the world will try to define our worth as a person and that includes social media. It's true that social media has its own uses which gives us tons of benefit in today's age, but let's not dismiss the danger that comes along with it.
If you keep on falling prey to the world's deception that if you don't get a hundred likes you turn out as a sore loser or that you didn't get the approval you wished, then wake up because that it is certainly not what matters! Know that God doesn't define you that way; the cross defines who you really are. You are loved beyond what words can say, treasured so much that as the song Touch the Sky says, He traded heaven to have you again. (And I bet He'd do it all over again!) Imagine then what kind of love for goodness sake would do that?
It's time to remove the mask and let people see you for being you. You don't have to be liked by them all. Set your focus up high and know what really matters.
Your real friend,
I live an ordinary life; striving and making it work in the giant sandpit aka Dubai. My life isn't perfect (I wish it was!) But I guess there's something about the imperfection in my journey that makes it worth the write and share. I believe that we don't have to have everything figured out because if we do, a lifetime won't be enough...
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