I obviously don’t have even the slightest idea of how this blog will turn out but it seems to me that once the topic is defined, it is easier to free write more than anything else. As I was lying in bed finally getting some needed rest because I’m down with flu, this random thought just kicked in. Growing up, I had a lot of problems on looking good or probably looking better whenever I’m out of the house. There would be days like I’m in the mood to really dress well putting on some cute dresses, wear heels or sometimes put on a little something in my face while there were some when I almost looked like a tomboy wearing baggy tops and bottoms and doing my hair in such a messy way. It comes to me just right now that I’ve read a quote that states: “Dressing well is a form of good manners.” I don’t know who remarked this nor do I want to research about it anymore, but I definitely perceive that this is something I have always applied in my life. Dressing well, for me, is not an outward act of wanting to impress people but rather, it is something I do for myself. It is something that builds up my confidence and that through dressing well, I learn to be decent enough for occasions or events I go to where people won’t say pleasing things in front of me then mock me behind my back for under dressing in a party, in church or camping activities.
What just bothers me right now is why some people don’t mind about what they wear and why they should even dress in a proper manner! In my 19 years of existence, I witnessed a lot of people not even looking like they were even in the right place. They step in and wow! Seriously? Like for example,
1. In the mall – A mall is probably one of those most visited public places where people of any religion, from any place, of different positions in life would just come, enter and stop by. Saying this, I wonder… a mall can be cold and when I say this, sometimes it’s freezing cold. But why do some people look like they’re off to the beach wearing almost nothing? Honestly speaking, I heard a lady once said "what are they not wearing?” which I believe is true. If you’re at least wearing something suitable, no one would have to frankly ask questions like that. And besides, like here in the UAE, there would always be posters and guidelines just at the entrance of the mall stating that short shorts are not allowed, spaghetti straps are forbidden and a whole lot more. But it happens so often that it is either not noticed or disobeyed. Going back to the ‘manners’ thing, I really think that when you have enough “manners” or even knowledge of what it is, you wouldn’t just dress non- sensibly. It just takes a little respect for this country’s culture and a little sacrifice to abide by the rules. What is so hard? ( I wouldn’t want to use my blog to judge people but since this is what my topic reaches, it is a must to include this once and for all.)
2. At Church – For Christians, no matter which church you go to, whether it is in a hotel, a villa, a private residence or just anywhere, I firmly believe that the church is a sacred place. A sacred place where we can meet with God to praise Him, talk about Him and finally – meet with others too! And that being said, sometimes, especially for women, it can be so hard to dress decently since shorts are way more comfortable, ayt? Spaghetti straps or backless shirts gives a fresher and lighter feeling, yes? I know. I sometimes wished I could wear just about anything without having to worry about people around me. But then, as we are in the church, it is important to know that we wouldn’t want others to stumble especially our brothers, the men. I often ask myself, why are the women always pointed at when speaking about modesty? Shouldn’t it be the men who should control themselves and just be happy for us and look at us with respect no matter what we wear? This question, too, has been asked in one youth event that I attended and I remember what the leader’s reply is: “If you consider the men at church you’re brothers, you wouldn’t want to be the stumbling block that goes before them.” I thought, yeah, she’s right and she had a point. But more than anything, it is not about men that we should dress properly but rather, it is the reverence and awe in God that should push us to do so. I’d like to say that I’m not perfect nor do I dress well at church, but even then, I am constantly reminded that the God we serve is a God of decency and order. If we can dress absolutely well at parties and at workplaces, how much more should we at church? It doesn’t matter whether you’re wearing jeans or dresses as long as you’re wearing garments – not undergarments! Indeed, it is at the heart’s state when we begin to believe and realize that at church, modesty is a must.
In my life, I often get judged about the way I dress. There would just be radicals out there who’d think that because of the certain circumstances I face, I shouldn’t dress well. I shouldn’t look like I’m alright and most of all, I shouldn’t look like I have the money to buy everything that is wrapped around my body. I mean, is it a crime to look good or at least feel good? Is it that bad to wear ‘ as good as new’ clothes that have been handed down to me? Is it so out of the equation to put on towering high- heeled shoes that are my relatives’ or friends’ gifts to me? Despite the fact that I sometimes feel that the right of dressing well is being stripped off of me, the more I have the urge to look better – head high.
As I said earlier, dressing well is a form of good manners. It could also reflect what a person is on the inside. If you are knowledgeable, dress like you are one. If you want to be respected, show that you are someone who should be treated that way. You don’t have to be fake to look good, you just have to know where you’re going to and dress rightly for that. In that way, you can show that you are one who was brought up with really high standards, and of course – good manners.
P.S. - I already know who said the quote.. It's Tom Ford :)
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